RELATIONSHIP WITH A FEMININE ENERGY MAN: EXPECTATIONS AND WHAT YOU CAN DO

Most women DESIRE to be swept off their feet. They want to receive nice gestures, like flowers or surprise date nights, from their men.

They DREAM of saying yes to him in happy tears when he gets down on one knee with a diamond ring.

They WANT men who are able to lead the relationship, as well as make them feel safe and well taken care of.

Not the other way around.

In the picture above, you can see that the guy wears pink and even tears up for having a woman kneel down in front of him to prove her love!

Nothing wrong with wearing pink or feeling overwhelmed for receiving flowers from a woman.

Howevere, as a woman, would you ever be attracted to a man like that?

For me, it's a turn off.

Being with a feminine energy man, a woman usually instinctively compensates by being the one wearing the pants in the relationship.

This means, she plans the date, decides what and where to eat, buys him gifts, and don't be surprised if she even proposes to him.

When they do get married, she will continue by being the one to decide where they should live, and how many kids to have.

You get what I mean.

Some women may be happy to settle for such an arrangement.

This is probably because they have never experienced being spoilt rotten by macho, masculine men before.

I've seen many successful, go-getter women in my life settling for feminine energy men.

This is mostly because they are unable to switch off the masculine energy they operate on at work and bring home to their relationships with men.

These women SUFFER, later on in their relationship, because their men hardly take charge during important events (even emergencies).

These men also become too comfortable because they are so used to getting the wives do many things for them...

Feminine energy men are not necessarily bad men.

It's just how they are - too laid back, prefers to be the ones to receive, not keen on pursuing anything in life, enjoys living within the comfort zone...

Or, in other words, lazy!

Definitely not for me. 

I've even seen situations where a successful woman having to support her husband financially because he just lacks ambition and drives in life. 

However, there's a difference between beta men with masculine men who have feminine undertone in their personality (but that's a topic for another day).

WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT... BUT WHY SO MANY OF THEM SETTLE FOR MEDIOCRE RELATIONSHIPS?

Most women desire to be swept off their feet. 

They want to receive nice gestures, like flowers or surprise date nights, from their men.

They dream of saying yes to him in happy tears when he gets down on one knee with a diamond ring.

They want men who are able to lead the relationship, as well as make them feel safe and well taken care of.

Not the other way around.

Why some women haven't experienced such a fairy-tale-like romance in their relationship is because they don't trust their divine feminine power (enough).

They feel that surrendering to a man's leadership means that they are weak and submissive.

For this, unconsciously, their fears made them literally become the men they want to marry (women with wounded masculine energy).

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SO ARE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A FEMININE ENERGY MAN? HERE'S WHAT YOU DO TO TURN IT AROUND...

John Gray once mentioned that gender roles were clear in the 1960s, but not so in this modern era. 

Many women are now confused with who they truly are.

This is because they are also carrying the responsibility to earn a living, among other things, like men do.

This causes dating and relationship patterns to evolve, as well. 

It's bizarre to learn there are so many relationship terms nowadays.

Let me ask you, between a woman who has to do everything in the relationship to keep a guy, and a woman who is treated like a Queen by her man without literally doing anything, who is more powerful?

And it's not even about power! 

A successful,  beautiful woman but is easy to lead in the relationship is every alpha man's ultimate dream (instead of being the one who sets the pace of the relationship and making him feel like a loser).

In return, she is adored and pampered like how a Queen should, because her gentleness and softness is so addictive to him.

Win win, right?

Part of the solution is to acknowledge that masculine and feminine energies are not gender specific. 

Nobody can ever be or should only be either masculine or feminine. 

Such a person doesn't exist. 

In fact, there's nothing good or bad about masculine and feminine energies.

Like day and night, both are meant to complement each other, instead of competing against one another. 

Each energy serves its own purpose for both men and women.

A 100% masculine man would be a total jerk, while a 100% feminine woman would be a complete doormat. 

Too much in the masculine mode may cause aggresiveness, stress, anger, violence, or even addictions... 

On the other hand, excess of feminine energy energy would make a person passive, lazy, unmotivated, depressed...

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The key is BALANCE. 

Being a feminine woman doesn't mean that masculine energy no longer exists within her.

It simply means that her masculine energy becomes more grounded, as it is healed.

When this happens, her femininity is also healed, because it's no longer suppressed. 

Through this, a woman experiences inner peace, as she is now at home with who she is at her core. 

But that doesn't mean she denies the masculine element in her character. 

She embodies both, which makes her a whole and complete person. 

Hope it helps,

Aleda

Article edited on 24th October 2021.

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