ARE YOU IN A WRONG RELATIONSHIP? WHAT IF YOU CAN TURN IT AROUND?

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Why am I unhappy in my relationship?


Most women DESIRE to be swept off their feet. They want to receive nice gestures, like flowers or surprise date nights, from their men.

They DREAM of saying yes to him in happy tears when he gets down on one knee with a diamond ring.

They WANT men who are able to lead the relationship, as well as make them feel safe and well taken care of.

Not the other way around.

Why some women haven't experienced such a FAIRY TALE-LIKE ROMANCE in their relationship is because they don't trust their FEMININE POWER (enough).

They feel that surrendering to a man's LEADERSHIP means that they are WEAK and SUBMISSIVE.

For this, unconsciously, their FEARS made them literally become the men they want to marry.



If you are my client, you will never have to do this to keep a man happy...


A man's PRIMAL INSTINCT is to pursue for what he wants.

It doesn't only involve goals that he plans to achieve in his career, but also about being with the woman he's attracted to and/or fell in love with.

An #extraordinaryfemininewoman will never HAVE TO buy a man flowers and kneel in front of him to make him happy.

Being a MASCULINE guy, he will only resent her for doing this! Chasing for his love will deny his rights to be a real man!

Not that I want to be judgmental towards women who do this in their relationships, but when a woman operates from MASCULINE ENERGY, she usually attracts the feminine energy men.

Or a masculine man pursues her because he's enchanted by her physical beauty, but after a while, he loses his ATTRACTION and leaves her.

ARE FEMININE ENERGY MEN BAD?

In the picture above, you can see that the guy wears pink and even tears up for having a woman kneel down in front of him to PROVE HER LOVE!

Not that anything wrong with wearing pink or feeling overwhelmed for receiving flowers from a woman, but, as a feminine woman, would you ever be attracted to a man like that?

For me, it's a TURN OFF.

Being with a feminine energy man, she INSTINCTIVELY COMPENSATES by being the one WEARING THE PANTS in the relationship.

This means, she plans the date, decides what and where to eat, buys him gifts, and don't be surprised if she even proposes to him.

When they do get married, she will continue by being the one to decide where they should live, and how many kids to have.

You get what I mean.

Some women may be happy to SETTLE for such an arrangement, probably because they have never experienced being spoilt rotten by MACHO, masculine men before.

I've seen many successful, go-getter women in my life settling for FEMININE ENERGY MEN.

These women SUFFER, later on in their relationship, because their men hardly take charge during important events (even emergencies), become too comfortable because they are so used to getting the wives do many things for them...

Feminine energy men are not necessarily BAD men; it's just how they are - too laid back, prefers to be the ones to receive, not keen on pursuing anything in life, enjoys living within the comfort zone...

Or, in other words, LAZY!

Definitely not for me. Lol


WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT... BUT WHY SO MANY OF THEM SETTLE FOR MEDIOCRE RELATIONSHIPS?

Most women DESIRE to be swept off their feet. They want to receive nice gestures, like flowers or surprise date nights, from their men.

They DREAM of saying yes to him in happy tears when he gets down on one knee with a diamond ring.

They WANT men who are able to lead the relationship, as well as make them feel safe and well taken care of.

Not the other way around.

Why some women haven't experienced such a FAIRY TALE-LIKE ROMANCE in their relationship is because they don't trust their FEMININE POWER (enough).

They feel that surrendering to a man's LEADERSHIP means that they are WEAK and SUBMISSIVE.

For this, unconsciously, their FEARS made them literally become the men they want to marry.

READ MORE: Are a Hopeless Romantic to Yourself?


SO ARE YOU IN A WRONG RELATIONSHIP? HERE'S WHAT YOU DO TO TURN IT AROUND...

Let me ask you, between a woman who has to do everything in the relationship to keep a man, and a woman who is treated like a QUEEN by her guy without literally doing anything, who is more POWERFUL?

And it's not even about power! 

A successful,  beautiful woman but is easy to lead in the relationship is an ALPHA MAN's ultimate dream (instead of being the one who sets the pace of the relationship and making him feel like a LOSER).

In return, she is adored and pampered like how a QUEEN should, because her gentleness and softness is so ADDICTIVE to him.

Win win, right?


ARE YOU IN A WRONG RELATIONSHIP? WHAT IF YOU CAN TURN IT AROUND? | #extraordinaryfemininewoman

Masculine and feminine energies are NOT GENDER SPECIFIC. 

Nobody can ever be or should only be either masculine or feminine. Such a person doesn't exist. In fact, there's nothing good or bad about masculine and feminine energies.

Like day and night, both are meant to COMPLIMENT each other, instead of COMPETING against one another. Each energy serves its own PURPOSE for both men and women.

A 100% masculine man would be a total JERK, while a 100% feminine woman would be a complete DOORMAT. 

TOO MUCH in the MASCULINE mode may cause AGGRESSIVENESS, STRESS, ANGER, VIOLENCE, ADDICTIONS... 

On the other hand, EXCESS of FEMININE energy would make a person PASSIVE, LAZY, UNMOTIVATED, DEPRESSED...



The key is BALANCE. 

Being a feminine woman doesn't mean that masculine energy no longer exists within her, but simply means that it becomes more GROUNDED, as it's HEALED.

When this happens, her femininity is also healed, because it's no longer SUPPRESSED.

Through this, a woman experiences INNER PEACE, as she is now at home with who she is at her core.


John Gray once mentioned that GENDER ROLES were clear in the 1960s, but not so in this modern era. 

Many women are now confused with who they truly are, because they are also carrying the responsibility to earn a living, among other things, like men do.

This causes DATING and RELATIONSHIPS PATTERNS to evolve, as well. It's bizarre to learn there are so many relationship terms nowadays.

As a Relationship Coach, my work here is to assist on restore that balance between both energies for introverted, highly-sensitive and/or empathic women, while also teaching the concept of being HIGH VALUE, so that they can experience fulfilling, meaningful relationships.



Hope it helps,


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