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Traits of a Sexy Extraordinary Feminine Woman | Self Love | The Woman Men Want

I was mopping the kitchen floor in my old sexy lingerie when a Coldplay's song, Hymn for the Weekend, was on (Don't worry, nobody saw me as I'm always the only person downstairs very early in the morning. Lol).

“Oh angel sent from up above
You know you make my world light up
When I was down, when I was hurt
You came to lift me up…”


For years, I had avoided sappy love songs just because I refused to let any man on the pedestal, even when my relationship was / is wonderful.

I still keep my favourite ones in my love songs playlist, and listen to them once in a while, but I was never really a fan of love songs.

But, as I was mopping the floor, it occurred to me, "damn, that song should be about me!" 

And it's not even the weekend! 

“Life is a drink, your love’s about
To make the stars come out…”

I hardly listened to any love songs and thought of myself.

Don’t get me wrong; I do have motivational and inspiring tunes on Spotify that I do dedicate to myself, especially as I am getting myself ready in the morning – to get me on the right mindset – but love songs? Never.

It had always been about those men in my life. When I come to think of it, we spend so much time praising lovers and, mostly, ex-lovers.

No song actually reminded me of myself.

Maybe that had been the reason why I was unconsciously avoiding love songs – lovers that become ex-lovers.

I was afraid that those songs would stay with me for years even when the relationships didn’t. And my brain’s capability to remember which song comes in which year, actually, amplified the fear.

The fear of getting hurt.


Many of us are so hooked up on fairy tales – a poor, lonely peasant girl being saved by her knight in shining armour from an evil villain.

And lived happily ever after.

Which one is your favourite love story? Mine were Cinderella and Swan Lake.

We crave so much for these fairy-tales to come true that we become hard on ourselves when we are less than perfect.

And when life is not so fairy-tale like.

That zit that appears during that time of the month. Those stretch marks that we bring as souvenirs from the past. Our body shapes that never seem to look good in any clothes that we wear. Relationships that ended because we are just mere imperfect humans.

Seriously, when was the time we ever celebrated our wins, treated our so-called flaws as adorable quirks, and consoled our own lonely hearts?

Regardless of our preferred love language, don't you think that we deserve all those loving words from ourselves once in a while?

And now I wonder why I hadn't done this sooner. With this realization, I have started to treat myself like how I’d like to be treated.


Cliché, isn’t it?

But not many actually does this.

And that included me.

I now put on my nude lipstick even when I’m not going anywhere. I wear my signature perfume in my hair at home. I no longer reserve my best clothes for dates. I wear make-up even for a short trip to the grocery store. I celebrate my well-designed body with intricately exquisite yoga poses. I give compliments that I want to hear when I’m in front of the mirror. I try to find blessings in all my setbacks and challenges, and thank God for them.

What makes an Extraordinary Feminine Woman Beautiful and Sexy

You get what I mean.

It’s because I believe that an Extraordinary Feminine Woman never has to demand for what she wants in life, especially in a relationship with a man. She doesn’t have to fearfully be setting up boundaries at the expense of self-respect.

Then, what does she do?

She shows up for herself like how a woman should be treated by a gentleman.

And her man has no choice but to meet that standard.

This is how she inspires…

She doesn’t only embrace her femininity whenever her man is present.

She knows that she is the one filling up her own ‘cup’, making it full.

Why would she wait for a man to do that for her?

Only when her cup is overflowing with love that she has the capacity to share it with others – particularly her man.

That’s why she dedicates beautiful, uplifting love songs to herself.

Self love for an Extraordinary Feminine Woman includes dedicating love songs to herself


For starters, which song should you be singing to yourself? (If you already are on the journey towards becoming the Extraordinary Feminine Woman, you might take these advanced steps).

Remember, you don't have to wait for the New Year to treat yourself better xoxo

Embrace your feminine energy, 


Hi, I'm Aleda, a Relationship Coach. I work with highly-sensitive, empathic women, showing them how to be more high value and feminine in their relationships. 

This allows them to feel adored and cherished by literally doing nothing, and to sustain their men's attraction in the long run despite challenges or conflicts, so they could experience meaningful, fulfilling relationships while maintaining their strong sense of individuality. 

Because physical beauty may initially attract a man's attention, but it's your quiet energy that keeps him. Start HERE.        

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